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4.20 | Your Network Is Your Net Worth

>> Isha Vela: Welcome to Devotional Anarchy, a podcast about intimate, embodied leadership that is radically human, honest af, and thereby inherently disruptive to systems of disempowerment and disconnection. I’m Isha Vela, trauma psychologist, certified somatic practitioner, wealth wizard, licensed financial professional, leadership coach, and intuitive business mentor. You’re here because, you know, self intimacy and self knowledge is the source of everything you want to create in your life. And that building safety and trust in your body is what allows you to fully own and store your energy in the direction of your desires. This season, get ready for deep dives into wealth building spirituality, emotional leadership, and human centered business with an activist twist. The conversations and tools shared in this podcast are your permission slip to manifest a life and business that lights your soul on fire and supports collective liberation.

You talk about how your network is your net worth

 

Hey. Hello. Hello. I’m so excited to talk to you today, about your network being your net worth. And you’re listening to this a few days into my recovery, after getting two grapefruit size fibroids out of my uterus and basically the removal of my uterus as well, basically two babies, two small babies coming out of me. And, Yeah. And what inspired me to put together this episode is, leading up to my surgery, I was coordinating care for myself the week that I was going to be resting and recovering. So as a single parenthood, you know, the care I received when I can’t take care of myself is only as good as the local relationships that I’ve nurtured and, yeah, the community that I’ve built around me. and I haven’t always been great at that, but I feel really fortunate in this moment to have people stepping in to visit me, and just keep me connected. Right. Not keep me so not happy. Be sitting here on the couch, like, lonely. yeah. And also, like, coming off of the wealthy woman vault two ah .0 launch, which, as you know, happened in, happened live in the Coachella Valley of California in a villa with 30 other people of influence. It just got me thinking about, like, it brought up a lot of shit for me, honestly. but it got me to thinking about how the influence that I’ve created in my business, in my businesses, has been almost, almost exclusively because of the relationships that I’ve nurtured over the last ten years, which are only as strong and robust as the relationship skills that I’ve developed through healing my relational wounds. Right. The developmental trauma, the attachment stuff. And. Yeah. And going back to the whole, like, people of influence, like, clearly, in that space, I wasn’t you know, I don’t consider myself a person of influence, and while I do, and I don’t. Right. I certainly don’t have the, you know, the number of followers. a lot of the people there have. yeah. So, no, I don’t consider myself an influencer at all, even though I do have influence in the world in, in my own way. And you, you know, with a certain, with certain communities. And I want to have more. I would love to have more influence, and that’s basically what I’m working towards. And I recognize also in that, that I do know a lot of people, and a lot of people know who I am, and I really appreciate all of those connections and how they’ve supported me in my business. yeah, so I just wanted to dedicate a whole episode on. On how I’ve built my network, and as a result, my net worth and how I’m building that. I’m, just continuing to build that.

 

 

How to reach out to people who are further along than you

 

And I also wanted to sort of talk about, like, how to reach out to people who are further along than you. Right. Because, you know, expanding your reach can be, you know, you do it. There’s lots of different ways to do it. And so I just wanted to speak a little bit to that, what to do and what not to do, in certain scenarios and specifically what sort of fears and barriers I had to overcome in order to enter spaces that I wasn’t accustomed to being in. yeah. And so let’s just start by just acknowledging that all business, all business is relational. It doesn’t matter what type of business you’re in. It really is about, like, your ability to connect with someone that’s going to provide people an experience that they’re then going to talk about to other people. Right. And, of course, if they have a bad experience, they’re also going to talk about it to other people, which means that your net worth and your network is like you, is dwindling. but, yeah, people work with who they know, like, and trust and business. You know, I think that when I was growing up, I clearly understood that, it’s all about who you know. I remember having this experience when I lived in San Francisco, and I was doing this, I was doing, like, staffing work, professional staffing work, temp work. And, I remember, like, part of my job was to look over resumes of kids who were coming into this. It was actually a finance business. That’s so funny. but there were kids who were kids who were, basically submitting their resumes to be interns at this firm. And so I was looking over their resumes, and I just remember having this moment wherever. Like, it was so clear to me that I wasn’t at that level. These were people who, like, the reason why they were submitting their resume is because they knew somebody who worked there. They were leveraging those relationships, and that’s how they were getting their foot in the door, because this was a very prestigious firm, and it was really clear to me at that moment, like, oh, yeah, it is all about who, you know, and feeling very, like, on the outside of that, feeling very, like, less than, you know, seeing, like, all of the internships these kids had already had, you know, the schools they went to, all of the stuff, you know, so it was quite a shock. Like, it was quite a revelation. and then I had another experience sometime later where I had one of my professors at the University of Chicago, you know, offered to help to put in a word for like, it put in a good word for me. And he said, yeah, like, do you want me to talk to this particular professor that you want to work with at the university that you’re applying to? And I was like, I was horrified. I was like, oh, you know, like, I can do it myself, you know, like, how. How dare you think that, like, I need your help getting in there. And I didn’t realize it at the time. It’s just like, yeah, that’s how people do things. People, it’s like, it’s all relational. And I, in my, in, at that time, in my life, obviously, I was in my. I was in my twenties, you know, this is pre, pre self work. But I just, like, I didn’t understand that that’s how the world worked, that it was all relational, that it, you know, I was kind of like the, you know, pull yourself up by your bootstraps kind of mentality. So getting help, receiving help was like a weakness that, like, oh, you needed someone. You needed someone to, like, lift you up because you couldn’t do it yourself. So I was so wrong. So wrong. but anyway, yes, it’s about who you know. And more importantly. More importantly, this is important, how you make people feel, how people feel in your presence. you know, people. People know, like, and trust people that make them feel safe. Like, when they feel safe in your presence, you know. Yeah, that just puts their nervous systems at ease. They feel like they can be themselves. Maybe they open up to you in a particular way. Right. And that builds intimacy. There’s more connection when people are able to open up and be vulnerable. That’s like scientific data. and people feel safe in your presence when you’re not somehow manipulating your energy in order to be liked, because people feel that, and it feels iffy. It feels. It just sometimes gives people the ick because you’re like, oh, you’re trying too hard. Like, don’t do that. and this is where self knowledge and self acceptance is really the game changer. Because if you are aware of your insecurities, right. If you’re clear on, like, yep, this is my baggage, then you can work with those parts of yourself and you can, you know, care for those parts of yourself when they’re feeling scared. And you can create that inner safety that’s going to transmit as confidence. Right? It’s that self acceptance and that, like, yep, this is just what it is that communicates confidence. And confidence is so incredibly magnetic, right? Who doesn’t love that? Who doesn’t want more of that? So when you feel safe within yourself, it inspires safety in your relationships. This is really, like, your best marketing strategy, folks. Not just making your clients feel safe, but everybody that you come in connection with, even if it’s someone that maybe you don’t like so much or, somebody you have to set boundaries with, doing it in a way that is in integrity, with your heart, that is still, in alignment with the person who you want to be and how you want to be treated. So, again, I’m going to step back in time for a moment, and I want to sort of preface the next section by saying that I was a therapist for 15 years before becoming an entrepreneur. And in that work, you just develop the skills to connect with people. It’s just like to connect with people emotionally, specifically. That’s just my jam. It’s always been my jam. It’s what I’ve been good at, naturally. and I just made it my profession. But even though I was good at it professionally, I was not always good at it, like, more personally and more intimately. Because when you’re in the position of therapist or coach or whatever you want to call yourself, helper, healer, you’re in a position of power. You’re not necessarily disclosing parts of yourself. You are not necessarily being vulnerable. It is your client that is being vulnerable. So that’s kind of kept me in a very safe and protected place. And so my stuff, my relational, I guess, wounding came out more in my personal relationships. And I have, like, I have hang ups, I have insecurities, and I’ve just learned how to identify them and how to work with them, which then gave me, like, the confidence and courage to sustain, you know, relationships over a longer period of time and to be able to work through conflicts and, yeah, really, really important stuff. and before working on my relational trauma, I kept my emotions to myself. I didn’t feel safe sharing those with people. I didn’t grow up in a family that was emotionally literate. I, didn’t let people in on my process because I didn’t want it meddled with or criticized or judged. and my friends would actually complain that when I was making decisions that involved them in some way, they, you know, they complained that I didn’t let them in on my process and that they felt left out, which was totally valid. I totally see that now. And at the time, I was like, why do you need to know? Why can’t I just present you with the final. You know, with the final package? So I also didn’t reach out to people if I was feeling, like, depressed or in a dark place or I. You know, if, you know, I was having, like, a, you know, cosmic shit storm happening inside of me. I. I didn’t reach out to people. I was.

 

 

When I began entrepreneurship, I committed to a vulnerability posting practice

 

I would really, like. I would feel paralyzed with fear. Like, just the thought of picking up a phone and saying, like, I, like, I need to talk to somebody was just terrorizing to me. and that contributed a lot to my feelings of loneliness, which I would then soothe with food. Right. It’s all connected. I just didn’t allow myself to be seen in that level of vulnerability. It was way too scary. And it was scary only because it was unfamiliar. It was not something that I was well practiced in. And if you were my friend, right, if we were close and I had a grievance with you, you would never know it. I would probably either hold my resentment, kind of, like, take it and put it sort of in my back pocket until it came out sideways in, like, some future moment, right. Or I would ghost you. In other words, I would withdraw my love and attention until you noticed it and then would reach out to me. Or if I was really pissed, I would cancel you. Right? I would just be like, all right, yep. I’m done with you. Shut the door. Right? And done. And it’s so hilarious to me now. Like, all of these games that we. That we play in relationships, because, you know, all we’re saying there is this, like, I want you to see my pain. I want to connect, but you don’t know how. And so you do it in all of these manipulative ways, even though it’s not intended to be manipulative. anyway, I was also very sensitive to rejection, so reaching out to people I didn’t know was not easy. yeah, so when I began my process of entrepreneurship, my journey, and you’ve probably heard this before, but I committed to a vulnerability posting practice, so I knew that I needed to work on my visibility because I was so good at hiding. And so my practice was just saying the truth. What was true that day for me, it was just that simple. Whatever was alive for me that day, that’s what I would talk about, that’s what I would post about, and I would try to make it of service as much as possible to the person who was reading it. And this became a sort of like a vulnerability practice, but it also became like a spiritual practice for me. And it became like, a way for me to grow, but also to, yeah, to grow my influence as well, and to be. To somehow, like, have my medicine out in the world. Right. Even if not a lot of people would see it. It was really more for me. And, Yeah, and I really desired to be seen, even though it was super scary. I know that beneath that fear was that deep desire to be seen. I wanted to be known and not known from a place of, I’m famous, right? I did want that for a while, and I did some shadow work around that, too. But I wanted to be known in my humanity, in my personhood. And I had to practice opening myself up so that people could see me. And let me tell you, writing those posts was not easy. It was so not easy for me. Sometimes they would take me 2 hours, 2 hours at a time. Let me take a drink here. I’m so thirsty. And, you know, they would take me 2 hours. sometimes I would get so frozen in fear, and it’s not like I don’t want, when I say frozen, I don’t want you to think. It’s like I could move, but I could feel a part of me, just like a part of me that would clamp up. And sometimes I would feel like a hand around my throat. I would just feel like it was just kind of closing up on me. Orlando. I would feel like this when I was trying to have this thought, this thought process or completing a, yeah, just completing a post. I would just feel this curtain coming down over my. Over my thoughts, almost like, yep, you’re not gonna. We’re done with that. And it would just kind of COVID up and I wouldn’t be able to see the rest of the words that wanted to come through me. Yeah. So it was a really weird experience that I had to kind of, like, it felt very ancestral, and it felt like I was working through some. Some witch wounding, some very heavy duty ancestral stuff that I couldn’t name that wasn’t accessible to me, but that, like, in terms of the story wise, it wasn’t accessible to me, but the sensations really, really were.

 

 

A foundational piece of building relational wealth is allowing yourself to be seen

 

So I mention all of that because a foundational piece of building relational wealth in your business is allowing yourself to be seen. And unfortunately, this is where a lot of people kind of, like, they miss the mark, especially at the beginning of their journey, is that they’re hiding. You might be sharing a part of yourself that you think people want to see that is maybe strategic. There’s nothing wrong with being strategic, but, it just. When people can’t feel you, when people don’t feel that full authenticity, it doesn’t allow them to fully connect, you know? And so part of it is the witch wound, if you want to call it that. But really, like, at the base of it, at the foundation of it is this fear of exposure. the vulnerability is exposure. It is sort of. It is our feeling of lack of safety. And so we need to create that safety within ourselves. Right. You create it within yourself so that you can take the risk. Right. Because it is courage. It is the courage to take the risk that, over time, builds the confidence. Right. So it’s like the courage taking the risk that those are the repetitions, those are like the muscle reps, you, know, in terms of the visibility and getting yourself out there and allowing yourself to be seen, that then builds the confidence muscle. So, yeah, I’m not going to get into the weeds about, like, the witch wound. You know, I might do that in a future episode. If you want that, let me know. but that’s just the foundation of. Of building your network. I was going to say network net worth and network. yeah, those leadership skills, that thought leadership, that, emotional leadership, that embodied leadership, that’s really at the foundation of your business. Really at the foundation. There’s really nothing better, more magnetic than that in your marketing.

 

 

When it comes to reaching out to people, follow your attraction

 

So, you know, when it comes to reaching out to people, when it comes to creating a community of like minded folks and, yeah, building your. Your network, I want to invite you to, number one, follow your eros. And what I mean by Eros is like, follow your attraction, follow your desire. let your curiosity lead you. maybe it’s intuitive guidance. Maybe you have a download. and, like, maybe there’s been. There’s somebody that you’ve been following online that you’re, wow, this person is fascinating. Or I want to get to know them better, or they would be, you know, they would be great to teach in my container, or I would love to co create something with them, whatever it is for you. Like, reach out to them, let them know what you’re downloading. see if it’s an energetic match. for example, I’m thinking everyone that I’ve interviewed on this podcast has been either somebody that I’ve known in person through different connections, or that I’ve met online. And mostly it’s been somebody that I’ve followed for a little while that I’ve been intrigued about and then reached out to and said, hey, would you be interested in coming to talk to me on my podcast about such and such a thing? I think it would be so interesting. yeah. And, like, for example, like, I remember meeting, the brewery, my business partner, through something I put like, well, first of all, I saw that she was in a similar. We had. We had a similar community in common. And then I. I saw that she had a group called Sacral Sauce, and I was like, oh, so energy work, right? Sacral energy. And it was about money. And that’s when I was doing my money work. And I was like, oh, that’s interesting. Oh, trauma informed money work. Oh, sign me up, please. Right? So I’m in her community. We’re kind of like, you know, she’s seeing that I’m engaging and, you know, and then finally, I think I. In my Instagram stories, I posted something about doing a liver cleanse. And then she reached out to me over the DM’s and was like, hey, you, want to do a liver cleanse together? You want to, like, keep each other accountable? And I was like, oh, heck, yeah, that sounds like a great idea. So we ended up doing that, and that’s when we started, like, exchanging messages over WhatsApp. And then it led to, me doing a financial plan with her partner, Claire, my now advisor and mentor. And that’s how I came into the business. Right. So it’s all like, those are all, like, seed plantings that led to this outcome, right? yeah, so there’s that. Follow your arabs. and I have other things to say about that. but it really is about, like, trusting that, you know, like, trusting who you’re attracted to. Like, let yourself be guided by that attraction and name it. It’s really. I think it’s. I think it’s. Wouldn’t it be wonderful? Like, think about it. Think about receiving, like, say, having somebody come into your DM’s and say, I really love the way you talked about such and such on your last live. and I would really love to interview, like, interview you for such and such. Right. Or talk to you more about this, you know? And I think that’s a great way to reach out where the person really feels like you are seeing them and you’re reaching out to them from a place of, like, real appreciation. So the second tip is be assumptive. This is a really important one. So when you’re connecting with someone that you don’t know, like, assume intimacy, assume a level of closeness. One of the biggest barriers for me growing up, because I grew up in a family where respect was about hierarchy, and, like, elders and things like that, that kind of culture, I always wanted to be respectful and polite. And what that did was just create distance between myself and the other person that I was trying to get to know, like, feeling like I was bothering them. you know, that’s a wound of, like, being the annoying child and needing to be like, oh, careful, so that you don’t bother people. Ooh, okay. And that would keep me sort of in this tiptoe y kind of place and keep me away from them. So that would keep us from actually developing a real relationship of being close. And, it came up a little bit when I met, Leia ardent, who I’m doing the new money membership content cash with. when I saw her online, I was like, omg her. I was just like, stars in my eyes. I was just instantly smitten. I loved the way she held her energy, the way the energy came through her words. I was like, I want to be able to do that. I was just like, oh, my God. And at some point, I let her know, I need to work with you. I was like, I don’t know how, but I need to work with you. And she was like, yeah, I think you and I are going to work together. We just kind of acknowledged the download. and I ended up entering her, her money. It was basically like a money healing, like a one year mentorship where she did, like, somatic clears, and it was very powerful, and there were meditations and all the things. And when I finished working with her, I kind of expected to be like, oh, okay, right. I’m done working with you. You were my mentor now you’re not. And she kept messaging me, like, kept dropping little, pebbling is what it’s called, I think, when you send people like, either memes or reels or funny stuff that you see online that you think the other person’s going to like. And I was like, why is she messaging me? You know, I was like, why are you talking to me? And from a really good place, kind of from the place of like, I was actually kind of confused, like, why she wanted to be my friend. I thought she was just being nice to me because I was in her container, but she was actually wanted to be my friend and I wasn’t being assumptive there. So, yeah. Ah, so that was a lesson for me to like, just be assumptive, you know, let me get another drink of water because I could feel myself almost about to cough.

 

 

Cold diem is where someone assumes intimacy before that intimacy is offered

 

So one thing that I don’t like about the assumptive piece, and this is, let’s say the shadow side of being assumptive is that I, in relationships is like the cold DM, right? Nobody really likes the cold diem, where somebody comes in and says something that assumes a level of intimacy that has absolutely no foundation, like no intimacy has been established, no connection has been established before that intimacy is offered. it just actually feels like a boundary violation. And when I’ve reached out to people cold in their dm’s, it’s actually been a little bit like, let’s say tepid. It’s been warm. Because I’ve already liked their posts, I’ve gotten to know what they’re about. maybe I’ve been in some of their containers or I’ve bought, a low ticket offer. So I have a sense of who they are and why it would be good for us to meet. In other words, there’s a vibe, you know, and versus somebody just dming you cold without having the foggiest idea who you are or what you do and making huge assumptions, right. That’s being assumptive in a really, like, lack of boundaries kind of way. So there’s a huge difference there. And when you reach out to people who are farther along than you, let’s say maybe they are, more established in their business, they’re making more money than you in their business, maybe they have better systems in place, maybe have more followers. Like, whatever it happens to be, please do your best not to fawn. Please. Because when you’re fawning, you’re automatically assuming a lower position. You’ve made yourself less than you’re making them better. And they’re not, they’re not. They’re just human. And the right people don’t want to be on that pedestal in relationship to you. They just want to get to know you. They just want to connect with you. They’re just as curious and excited as you are to, you know, to meet.

 

 

You want to leverage relationships to build relationships. So you’re using another person’s network to become visible

 

So, the other part, part three, let’s say number three, is ask to be connected. So you want to leverage relationships to build relationships. summits are good for that. getting inside of different teaching containers is good for that. Right. So you’re using another person’s network to build your network to become more visible. and of course, not from an extractive, like, go getter place, like, oh, I can, you know, I can do this. If I leverage that, then I can get this, you know, be aware of that energy that’s part of the shadow work, ongoing. but just think about, oh, yeah, this is how we can support each other. I will speak in your container, and I will do it happily for free, and that will give me exposure, and it’s a win win. and there have been times also, where it hasn’t been appropriate to be assumptive, especially when I’m, you know, let’s say I have a friend who is connected with someone I really want to meet, that I’m excited about meeting, and I don’t have any prior connection to that person. In other words, like, I haven’t followed them online. I don’t know a lot about who they are, but I know enough that I want to meet them. and they have no idea who I am for sure. And in those cases, I’ve asked a friend who’s connected with that person to let them know about me and to ask if it’s okay for me to reach out to them. and then I might give a reason, like, oh, yeah, tell them that I’m going to be reaching out to them because I want to invite them on the podcast, or I’m curious to have a conversation with them about such and such. Right. This gives that person that I don’t know and that I want to get to know a heads up. It gives them an opportunity to say no. And if you are rejection sensitive, this works well because you haven’t really stuck your neck out directly. You’ve had the other. You’ve leveraged the other person. Right. So again, like, you know, don’t be extractive people above money, always, but, you know, just don’t just think about what you’re going to get out of it. It’s. And it’s like, you know, I say that with the understanding that it’s kind of inevitable that you want something, otherwise you wouldn’t be reaching out. But think about how it can be mutually beneficial. think about, like, center as much as possible in your business. Mutuality, reciprocity. Really define for yourself what that means. Be checking yourself that you are in alignment with that, in alignment with the give and take in relationships. And I would say give more than you get. Really make it a goal to give more than you get, and trust that it’ll come back. when you do that, that’s going to be a no brainer in building your network and ultimately your net worth. and when you’re doing the shadow work, when you’re committed to ongoing shadow work and to looking at the parts that arise, that the energies where you feel like, yeah, I have that really greedy part that, like, wants this or wants that. You know, you’re. When you’re committed to walking in alignment with your values, it’s just going to naturally come up. You’re just going to notice it, you’re going to acknowledge it, and you’re going to let it be there. And you’re going to acknowledge that, yes, I have a tremendous desire for such and such, and that’s why this energy is here. Right.

 

 

What are some things that get in the way of building your network

 

So I want to move on to two. What are some of the things that get in the way of building your network? obviously, there’s the hiding piece. That’s a big one. so what’s come up, in addition to the whole being seen in my vulnerability, is the question of who am I to be here? Like, in this space, whatever the space is. Maybe it’s an actual room where you are in an in person situation, and you’re like, oh, my God, clearly I’m the odd person out. Or maybe it’s an online community where you’re just like, yeah, I don’t even know why I’m here or why was I invited to this? You’re wondering, am I worthy to be here? So that’s, obviously a worthiness thing or an unworthiness thing. And when that’s come up, when I’ve noticed that come up, I’ve always said to myself, like, why not? Why can’t I be here? Why don’t you get to be here? And, you know, thankfully, I’ve not come up with a good answer. Like, when I ask myself that question, I don’t come up with a good answer. And in the past, I would have been really, like, I would have been really good at coming up with a story and found a plausible reason or plausible in my brain why I wasn’t good enough to be there. And then I just sort of, like, took myself out energetically. I sort of canceled myself, because I hadn’t done that sufficiency work. and so, yes, in the process of, like, building that internal sufficiency of my own enoughness, it’s just so easy to see, like, yeah, that’s a story. Delete, you know, and remove. It’s just not true. And then I can be like, okay, so I get to be here. So now what? So now how do you, how do you act when you decide that you get to be here? Okay. Different scenario altogether, right.

 

 

Part of wounding around belongingness is feeling like you don’t belong

 

The other thing that’s kind of gotten me in trouble, let’s say, and that I still sometimes, like, I notice that. I notice it come up, is my belongingness wound, feeling like I’m on the outside looking in. And it’s related to what I just talked about, like, the unworthiness of being in a space, whether I get to be here and participate. And this one is sneaky because it can sometimes come through in your messaging. for example, you might write content about people you think are rejecting you or communities that you think you don’t belong to. It might bring up resentment and anger and you thinking that you don’t belong this whole time, and when you actually do, but you don’t have that perception, you don’t have that. That point of view, because nobody’s saying to you, hey, so and so you belong. You’re having to figure that out yourself over time, as part of, you know, your healing process in business. So, yeah, like, it’s. It can be kind of a tricky thing even around, like, writing content and, assuming you don’t belong when you actually do. So, again, like, being assumptive about your belonging, obviously, part of the wounding around belongingness is about you feeling like you don’t get to belong on this planet. can you take up space on this planet? Do you get to be here incarnated on this planet? And doing that feels like that’s energetic and spiritual work that I’ve had to do. and as, like, in my very early wounding, I have this. I had this place. I don’t feel it now, but I had this place for a long time that was not committed to being fully in this body. I wasn’t committed to being fully on this earth. And I was like, I don’t really know why the fuck I’m here. I don’t. I resent being here, you know? And then it would come out a lot around my. Around my groups. I’m still not great at groups. Trust me, I’m not great at groups. I can shut down very easily in groups. but I’m working on it. When I’m there, I’m aware of it. I’m holding space for that part that’s just like, nope, I don’t want to be here, or, I can’t be here, or, I don’t get to be here. So all of that stuff does still come up, and it’s really just a matter of managing those internal parts and working with them and holding space for them. So, yeah, that’s it for this episode.

 

 

To build relationships, ask to be connected. Be honest about your intention and your desire

 

so we talked about following your arrows, like, going, letting yourself be drawn to the people that you want to work with or want to connect with and let them know. Let them know that. Let them know that. Be honest about your intention and your desire and like your, like, you know, be assumptive. Assume, intimacy. Assume a level of closeness and allow yourself to be. To be, you have to be open to that instead of trying to be polite and tiptoeing around the person. And leverage relationships. To build relationships, ask to be connected. build networks that way. You can call it taprooting or something like that, where you, access other people through the people that you already know.

 

 

All right, so I hope this was helpful to you. I’d love for you to share what moved for you

 

All right, so I hope this was helpful to you. I really enjoyed, recording this and, let me know what resonates with you. I’d love for you to. I’d love for you to share what moved for you, what shifted, and specifically how you’re going to reach out to someone. I want you to share that in your stories and tag me. I would love to know about that. All right, love you so much. Bye. Thank you for listening to today’s episode. Remember to hit the subscribe button to get notified of new episodes dropping on the new and full moons of each month. And if you haven’t already, leave us a five star review on iTunes. To make sure that everyone who needs this transmission receives it. Until the next episode, I’m sending you fierce, fierce love.